Why Your Therapist Can't Tell If You're Being Abused (And What to Do Instead)

Stop Wasting Money on Therapists Who Don't Understand Narcissistic Abuse

"My therapist says it takes two to tango."

I hear this phrase at least 5 times a week from survivors who are being destroyed by well-meaning but completely unqualified therapists.

Here's the brutal truth they don't want you to know:

Most therapists have zero specialized training in narcissistic abuse. None.

They learned about "relationship dynamics" and "communication skills" in grad school.

They never learned how to identify the 47 specific manipulation tactics that narcissists use to systematically destroy your sanity.

Important: The names and personal details shared in this article have been changed to protect the privacy of survivors. Their courage in sharing their experiences helps others recognize abuse patterns, but their identities remain completely confidential

The $150-Per-Hour Confusion Machine

Last month, Rebecca sent me 13 pages describing her marriage.

She'd been in therapy for 14 months. $8,400 spent.

Her therapist kept "exploring both sides" and asking her to "examine her role in the dynamic."

Meanwhile, Rebecca was having panic attacks, couldn't sleep, and was convinced she was losing her mind.

I read her story and immediately identified 23 specific narcissistic manipulation tactics.

In my assessment, I wrote: "Rebecca, you are absolutely being abused. Here's exactly how, and here's what you need to do to protect yourself."

Two weeks later: "Fahim, your assessment saved my life. For the first time in 3 years, I'm not questioning my own sanity."

What Your Therapist Doesn't Know

Trauma bonding - They think it's "attachment issues"
Love bombing - They call it "honeymoon phase"
Gaslighting - They see "miscommunication"
Triangulation - They think it's "jealousy"
Silent treatment - They call it "needing space"
Financial abuse - They see "money disagreements"
Isolation tactics - They think you're "codependent"

Every single narcissistic abuse tactic has been misdiagnosed by well-meaning therapists.

Why Couples Therapy with a Narcissist is Dangerous

If your therapist suggested couples counseling, run.

Narcissists are master manipulators. They will:

• Charm your therapist

• Make you look "unstable"

• Use therapy language against you at home

• Gather ammunition for future attacks

• Convince everyone you're the problem

Couples therapy with a narcissist is like bringing a knife to a gunfight.

The Assessment That Actually Works

After watching thousands of survivors get worse in traditional therapy, I created something different:

Professional Narcissistic Abuse Assessment.

✅ 48-hour turnaround (not 6-18 months)
✅ Specialized expertise (not general relationship therapy)
✅ Specific abuse tactics identified (not vague "dynamics")
✅ Clear yes/no answer (not months of "exploration")
✅ Personalized protection plan (not generic communication tips)

The Results Speak for Themselves

"I spent 2 years in therapy being told to 'set better boundaries.' Fahim's assessment showed me I was dealing with a malignant narcissist. Finally, someone who understood."

"My therapist kept saying 'your mother loves you in her own way.' Fahim's assessment documented 19 emotional abuse tactics. I wasn't ungrateful - I was being destroyed."

"18 months of couples therapy made things worse. The assessment revealed why - you can't negotiate with someone who sees you as an object."

What Makes This Different

I don't do "relationship therapy."
I don't explore "both sides."
I don't ask you to "examine your role."

I identify narcissistic abuse. Period.

If you're being manipulated, I'll tell you.
If you're being gaslighted, I'll tell you.
If you're being systematically destroyed, I'll tell you.

And then I'll tell you exactly how to protect yourself.

The Question That Started It All

How many more therapy sessions are you willing to attend where you leave feeling more confused than when you arrived?

How much more money are you willing to spend on someone who doesn't understand what you're dealing with?

How much more of your sanity are you willing to sacrifice?

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Less than one therapy session. More valuable than months of confusion.

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