My suspicion is that many of us are without disposable income. After 30 years (I was disabled by a surgeon one month after we were married) I am inexplicably entwined without the unobserved freedom to plan. My emails are read, phone calls heard, and in 13 years I have had five personal visitors. My bank account is mine, but we dip in to my accounts and credit cards until there is nothing left. If I still had a job, family, or friends I don't know if I would risk the pain of learning that he had already poisoned them.
These are just people. They make it so damn hard to escape with anything but they are still just people.
If it were just disarming their words, but they go so much further than that. It is the destruction that is so difficult to predict and avoid. My brain does not work that way.
These steps do not work because the judicial system, which is supposed to enforce penalties and protect the vulnerable, actively enables narcissists.
Those in denial have no understanding of the legal system and have never stepped foot in a courtroom. Family Court judges are not saints. They operate a money-making cartel. The longer a conflict or abuse continues, the more money they generate. They have both the motive and the power to exploit it, backed by legal immunity.
The phrase “best interest of the child” is a smokescreen. The only interest they serve is their own.
Narcissists win in court because they will do anything to protect their image and reputation. That matters more to them than even their own children. They pour money into preserving that false image. The court criminals, including Family Court judges, seize this opportunity and consistently side with the abuser. It is a pay-to-play scheme in which the vultures in Family Court gather to feast on you and your children.
So while the recommended steps may seem logical on paper, in reality, they crumble in a courtroom designed to protect power, not truth – and when justice itself is for sale, narcissists don’t lose ... they THRIVE.
Family Court judges are not innocent or gullible. That's a very common, and dangerous, misconception. They are fully aware and fully complicit. The only way you will ever witness this truth for yourself is when you step into the family court system for a divorce esp. one involving child custody. It is nearly impossible for you to see their true face otherwise. It's hidden from the public.
As an avid reader and an empath I have read the distressing stories. I would do poorly at this juncture as my emotional maturity has dwindled down to nothing. I have felt the words and am grateful that we did not have children.
I appreciate your honest thoughts. Yes, it's much harder with children. I love my children more than anything, but if I had to do it again, and knowing what I know now about the corrupt and evil souls in this world, I would not put them through this. They deserve much better. Wishing you peace and strength in your journey.
It comes down to our ability to protect. I grew up relenting to a narcissist, so my ability to protect has been weak. I am working on strengthening this even though I am already 65 years old.
I find this to be true with my mom. I outed her in a facebook post because I was tired of people telling me “she’s your mom, she loves you” when I went no contact the first time. To save myself this second time around I outed her with photo evidence. She went out with my ex on 2 different occasions and posted it to Facebook because she knew no one but me would know the context. I ripped off her mask and told everyone about how she stalked me the first time I left my ex, forcing me back to him to escape her. My whole life hasn’t been my own. It’s been doing things to please her so she isn’t absolutely nasty to me and it’s been running away from her. I’ve never been able to just enjoy my life and have a breath of fresh air, I’m always worrying by she’s around stalking me again. I unfortunately didn’t feel I could go to the police in 2018 when it happened so now I’m stuck.
I realize now that it was my older brother. I moved away from my family every chance I got. I flourished! Then found myself in need, moving back to destruction. Escape and you will find yourself! Move far enough away so their lazy ass does not follow or visit. I worked in resorts just to find a job in another State. You have a wonderful person waiting to be born again, to yourself.
HEAR ME ON THIS. WE DO NOT HAVE TO LOVE PEOPLE WHO HURT US. BLOOD IS NOT A BINDER TO PAIN. I HARDLY EVER SEE MY FAMILY AND UNTIL I MARRIED A NPD I WAS FREE AND HAPPY.
My suspicion is that many of us are without disposable income. After 30 years (I was disabled by a surgeon one month after we were married) I am inexplicably entwined without the unobserved freedom to plan. My emails are read, phone calls heard, and in 13 years I have had five personal visitors. My bank account is mine, but we dip in to my accounts and credit cards until there is nothing left. If I still had a job, family, or friends I don't know if I would risk the pain of learning that he had already poisoned them.
These are just people. They make it so damn hard to escape with anything but they are still just people.
If it were just disarming their words, but they go so much further than that. It is the destruction that is so difficult to predict and avoid. My brain does not work that way.
These steps do not work because the judicial system, which is supposed to enforce penalties and protect the vulnerable, actively enables narcissists.
Those in denial have no understanding of the legal system and have never stepped foot in a courtroom. Family Court judges are not saints. They operate a money-making cartel. The longer a conflict or abuse continues, the more money they generate. They have both the motive and the power to exploit it, backed by legal immunity.
The phrase “best interest of the child” is a smokescreen. The only interest they serve is their own.
Narcissists win in court because they will do anything to protect their image and reputation. That matters more to them than even their own children. They pour money into preserving that false image. The court criminals, including Family Court judges, seize this opportunity and consistently side with the abuser. It is a pay-to-play scheme in which the vultures in Family Court gather to feast on you and your children.
So while the recommended steps may seem logical on paper, in reality, they crumble in a courtroom designed to protect power, not truth – and when justice itself is for sale, narcissists don’t lose ... they THRIVE.
Psychologists are especially dangerous regarding npd abuse and that is where court systems usually get pulled in.
Family Court judges are not innocent or gullible. That's a very common, and dangerous, misconception. They are fully aware and fully complicit. The only way you will ever witness this truth for yourself is when you step into the family court system for a divorce esp. one involving child custody. It is nearly impossible for you to see their true face otherwise. It's hidden from the public.
As an avid reader and an empath I have read the distressing stories. I would do poorly at this juncture as my emotional maturity has dwindled down to nothing. I have felt the words and am grateful that we did not have children.
I appreciate your honest thoughts. Yes, it's much harder with children. I love my children more than anything, but if I had to do it again, and knowing what I know now about the corrupt and evil souls in this world, I would not put them through this. They deserve much better. Wishing you peace and strength in your journey.
It comes down to our ability to protect. I grew up relenting to a narcissist, so my ability to protect has been weak. I am working on strengthening this even though I am already 65 years old.
My best to you as well.
These worked for me many years ago but I had family members that believed my ex ovee me and my mother kept telling my ex where I was.
There was something that I did not prepare for. My oldest daughter has the same personality but smarter than my ex.
I find this to be true with my mom. I outed her in a facebook post because I was tired of people telling me “she’s your mom, she loves you” when I went no contact the first time. To save myself this second time around I outed her with photo evidence. She went out with my ex on 2 different occasions and posted it to Facebook because she knew no one but me would know the context. I ripped off her mask and told everyone about how she stalked me the first time I left my ex, forcing me back to him to escape her. My whole life hasn’t been my own. It’s been doing things to please her so she isn’t absolutely nasty to me and it’s been running away from her. I’ve never been able to just enjoy my life and have a breath of fresh air, I’m always worrying by she’s around stalking me again. I unfortunately didn’t feel I could go to the police in 2018 when it happened so now I’m stuck.
I realize now that it was my older brother. I moved away from my family every chance I got. I flourished! Then found myself in need, moving back to destruction. Escape and you will find yourself! Move far enough away so their lazy ass does not follow or visit. I worked in resorts just to find a job in another State. You have a wonderful person waiting to be born again, to yourself.
HEAR ME ON THIS. WE DO NOT HAVE TO LOVE PEOPLE WHO HURT US. BLOOD IS NOT A BINDER TO PAIN. I HARDLY EVER SEE MY FAMILY AND UNTIL I MARRIED A NPD I WAS FREE AND HAPPY.
I hear you! And I agree, blood does not bind us to toxic people.